I’m not going to lie. I have great expectations for December. The summer was nice but November brought a little too much sadness for me. Things are looking up and I am ready for a change. For most, happiness can be a choice. Let me reiterate that…it can be a choice. That is not true for everyone or in all circumstances.
There are days where I wake up in a funk. Nothing is wrong but things just aren’t right. Call it stress, call it being overtired, call it whatever. Those days I have to choose to be happy.
Here are my top 10 things that I do to choose happiness
- Surround yourself with not only happy people, but funny people too. Find people that make you laugh and keep you on your toes. Laughter is the best medicine. Get rid of the negative people and lose the drama.
- Treat yourself every so often. Like manis/pedis? Go get one! Feel like a night out with friends or significant other? Go for it. Oftentimes women and moms especially put themselves on the back burner. We tend to be nurturers. We need to learn that it is OK to take care of ourselves too. We don’t always have to be the last priority.
- Get a change of scenery. Sometimes sitting and staring at the same 4 walls is enough to drive you crazy. Change your view and it may just change your attitude.
- Turn off the computer and put your phone and tablets away. Social media has the potential to do more harm than good when you are feeling down. You know that saying, “Comparison is the thief of joy”? That holds true on the internet. Keep in mind that you only see a snippet of a person’s life online and often times it’s the edited view. Seeing the rosy side of someone’s life when you are in a vulnerable mood may make you feel worse.
- Call a friend or family member. More than likely they can cheer you up. Worst case scenario, it’s a distraction!
- Read. Not everyone is a reader but I am. Getting a good book and escaping my reality for a bit is wonderful.
- Light a candle, get a drink (hot/cold/nonalcoholic) and just relax. Unwind. Clear your head.
- Get a mantra. Mine is “Things could always be worse.” Simple? Yes. True? 100%. As long as my feet hit the ground when I woke up that morning, it’s a good start. Another favorite saying of mine? If everyone threw their problems in a pile and you saw everyone’s problems, you would quickly grab yours back. That goes hand in hand with my mantra, doesn’t it? Nothing wrong with giving yourself a pep talk every once in a while.
- Sometimes you just have to give in to your emotions. A good cry can be cathartic. Once you are spent and have it out of your system, you may just find yourself ready to embrace some happiness.
- Don’t borrow trouble or worry. Overthinking and worry are the main thieves of my happiness. I have started to resist them. Worrying about things to come only robs you of the present. Worrying about things that have past is worthless. What is done is done. Reminding myself of this has helped me immensely.
What do you do when you’re down? How do you choose happiness?