Wouldn’t you want to live in a world where everyone and everything is at peace? Where everyone is kind to each other and brings a smile to your face? Where people don’t take advantage of other people’s weaknesses but instead help them out? Yes, this is a long shot but we can and have to start today! If everyone just focuses on being a bit kinder, a never ending flow of kindness and positive energy will flow through the universe. And it is very simple and really doesn’t take much effort from each and every one of us. To the contrary, being kind and helping someone else, does make us feel better to 🙂
Below 5 ways that will get the kindness flow in motion:
1. Show gratitude. Also for the things that you take for granted
Say thank you if someone does something for you, show your gratitude. Show how you appreciate what was done for you. Assuming a friend always picks you up to go to work/school/wherever together and this has turned to ‘normal’. Next time he or she picks you up, show your gratitude. Say thank you and don’t take it for granted. It will make your friend and yourself feel better. On top of showing gratitude to others, be grateful for the things you have. Are you well fed, healthy, have a home and caring family and friends – lucky you.
Not everyone enjoys this privilege. Just think about how many things there are in this world and in your life that you should be happy about. Next time you are awake in the early morning because you can’t sleep, listen to the birds, be grateful for hearing them. Be grateful for this moment. Be grateful for being alive.
If you are grateful for little things, your whole mood and charisma will make you automatically be kinder to others.
2. Stop being judgemental
Live your life the way you want. But also accept others living their life the way they want. Just because someone does or says something that you don’t agree with (apart from obviously ‘wrong’ things that are harming others), wears an outfit you don’t like, has pink hair, just listen to your thoughts. Are you judging this person? Why? Do you think your way of life is ‘better’? Get rid of that attitude as this really doesn’t spread good vibes at all. Just think of everyone being alike and behaving the same way, saying the same things – wouldn’t this be the most boring thing ever?
Also try to understand the bigger picture. You never know why someone behaves, reacts or speaks the way he or she does. This brings us to the next point. Put yourself into the other person’s shoes.
3. Show empathy and put yourself in the other person’s shoes
Sometimes just trying to understand the other person makes the difference. Assuming someone has had a night without much sleep, a stressful morning and is in a bad mood. Wouldn’t an honest compliment make this person feel so much better? Or a smile? Or just any nice little gesture? Think about it, if this person’s bad mood is continued, there is a high chance that this bad mood defines his or her day as well as the days of the people he or she deals with during the day.
A flow of people with bad moods will be set off. Just lighten up someone’s day can therefore really make a positive difference and start a flow of kindness or at least stop a potential flood of moody people..
4. Give an honest compliment
We are not referring to fake compliments just to get you somewhere. No, we are referring to an honest, self-less, compliment. This can be about anything, even minor things. E.g. if one of your friends makes lovely carrot cake, tell her! Does someone have a beautifully disarming smile, amazing hair, can paint like an artist? Let them know! You can even give compliments to strangers. You will surely lighten up their day with this as they most likely did not expect a compliment by someone they don’t know.
Think about the person in point 4. Wouldn’t he or she have appreciated something nice to break out of the bad mood? Just make sure you give an honest compliment 🙂
5. Go with the flow
And most importantly, if someone has shown kindness to you, don’t stop the flow! Immediately spread this kindness further and lighten up someone else’s mood.